My Anti-Resolutions: 7 Things I Won’t Do For Love In 2018

Resolutions are great and all, but they’re damn hard to stick to, aren’t they? Because resolutions = pressure.

I would do anything for love...but I won’t do that

Resolutions are great and all, but they’re damn hard to stick to, aren’t they?

Because resolutions = pressure.

How about we flip things around, and create a list of things we’ll promise to stop doing?

That’s a little easier, right?

When it comes to love, next year...

1. I will not stress over my relationship status

Because it’s nothing to stress over. Seriously. If you’re reading this then chances are you’re one of the lucky ones. You have your health, you have incredible opportunities, and you have people in your life who love you deeply.

You have so much to be grateful for, and too much going for you to wallow in your singleness. Snap out of it.

2. I will not base my worth on the person who is or is not standing next to me

Your value doesn’t stem from your relationships - it forms within you, and cannot be altered by anyone apart from you. Remember that.

3. I will not close myself off from possibility

Love can be found in the most unexpected of places, circumstances, and faces. Keep your eyes, and most importantly, your heart open to the possibility of it, and it will begin to find you.

Online dating is a convenience - not a curse - so if you're one of the last holdouts, it's time to give it a try. If you've already been on a site but are feeling glum about the prospects, try switching things up. 

Zoosk's Behavioral Matchmaking gets to know your habits - likes and dislikes - and offers matches accordingly. It’s designed to gauge your own personality, and what you’re looking for, and then match you with someone you’d get along with.   

Another option is to try checking your messages and matches less frequently. Online dating can be overwhelming, but if you limit your engagement it can feel more exciting. 

4. I will not keep doing the same thing I've been doing

This year, why not take a chance and try to do things a little differently? Why not go on that blind date? Why not talk to that cute stranger you see on your commute each day? What have you got to lose by taking the reigns of your life, and simply seeing what happens? 

The dating site Match has tons of meetup events in major cities - so even if online dating isn't your thing, there are options. You just have to seek them out. 

5. I will not change who I am to fit somebody else’s ideal

Just because others have found their person, it doesn’t mean they’ve left you behind - you are not in a competition with anyone apart from you. If you’re happy, that’s all that matters. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being single, especially not yourself. 

6. I will not settle for less than

When it comes to love, you deserve someone who is always there for you, through the good times and the bad; someone who is kind, loving, and honest; someone who gives as much as you do, and someone who inspires and encourages you to be better every single day.

Never ever settle. Not in life, and not in love.

7. I will not make this year all about finding love

This year will be about so much more than that. This year will be about learning who you are even deeper than the last. This year will be about growing, transforming, and awakening. This year will be dedicated to falling in love… with yourself, with possibility, and with wonder. 

And if you can have a year as beautiful as that - what else really matters? 

One thing you can do for love in 2018? Head over to Zoosk today. Their smart matching may just be the key to making online dating work for you.