4 Simple Resolutions to Help You Find Love in 2018

Finding love is complicated, because people are complicated. We are all looking for connections, but each of us comes with our built-in resistances, pushing back against our ideas of happiness.

Finding love is complicated, because people are complicated. We are all looking for connections, but each of us comes with our built-in resistances, pushing back against our ideas of happiness.

Yet simplifying this comes down to just a few tweaks to our mindset and approach. 

Here are 4 rules for the new year, to help get you to the best place to find and accept love. 

1. I will remember that a little self love goes a long way

A lot of us crave love while subconsciously driving it away. This is usually based on a conviction that we are, for whatever reason, unlovable.

It’s not a debilitating feeling - it ebbs and flows like any other negative thoughts that pop into our heads - but unless this issue is addressed, it will continue to pierce any relationship. 

That’s because practicing self love allows for an openness to receiving love from others. 

It’s such a simple concept - If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect anybody else to - and the change can be as simple as making a mental shift. But it’s a necessary change if you want to be ready for that person to come into your life. 

2. I will put down the flashlight and pick up the mirror

Lest we push the self love mantra ad nauseum, we’ll make this brief - the more you love yourself, the more you will accept and love others. We’re all flawed in some way, but instead of picking apart every man who comes your way, try to ascertain why you make certain judgements.

As Gay Hendricks writes in his self-help book The Big Leap, “You can learn a lot more with a spirit of wonder and enjoyment than you can with an attitude of criticism.” 

3.  I will put myself in the best place to find love

You can wait for love to find you or you can seek love out. Leave any passive attitudes towards your love life in 2017, because while no one can predict when love will hit, you can put yourself in the best places to find it. 

A big (and often inevitable) part of actively finding love is signing up for a dating site. But not all dating sites are created equal - so when you choose a site, be sure it fits what you’re looking for. 

If you want to avoid the overwhelming nature of swipe-heavy sites, try a dating site like Zoosk​​​, which places a higher emphasis on genuine connections. 

The site’s Behavioral Matchmaking gets to know your habits - likes and dislikes - and offers matches accordingly. It’s designed to gauge your own personality, and what you’re looking for, and then match you with someone you’d get along with.   

Another great option - Elite Singles - is aimed at career-driven daters (30-55) who are too busy to spend hours swiping through profiles. The site employs personality pairing to match singles - based on a questionnaire that’s completed upon signup.

The right site can spell all the difference in finding the right kind of love.

4. I will try to get used to the highs and lows - and enjoy the ride

Finding love is like a pendulum of swinging emotions - the highs of curiosity, excitement and intrigue, followed by the lows of disappointment and despondency. Allow the constant belief that love is out there to get you through the low points.

All that’s left to say now is...happy dating. 

Ready to try out some of our tips? Head over to Zoosk​​ today. Their smart matching may just be the key to making online dating work for you.